Each book or coach will repeat the same thing: in order to achieve goals, you need to be able to control yourself and constantly develop. All this, of course, is wonderful, but not enough to succeed. Many often miss the importance of personal qualities, which are decisive on the path to achieving the goal.
Many of the qualities that are necessary for potentially successful people do not work without certain character traits. No self-control will work in all situations.
No matter how you want to achieve your goals, without certain qualities, sooner or later you’ll quit what you started or safely put it off for later. Especially when here and now we can enjoy more than an unguaranteed future. The main thing that cannot be done at such moments is to see the benefits of long-term goals.
Such an integrated feeling as gratitude can help us wait longer for a reward. Not so long ago, an experiment was carried out proving this. Participants were asked to choose: get money here and now, or pick up a large amount later.
So those with a more developed sense of gratitude were ready to wait. It doesn’t matter how much time it takes for them. For example, a teacher, to whom they often say at least “thank you,” checks the students’ work more carefully and even helps them out of class.
This is probably the most disinterested quality that will help you achieve your goals. We in fact receive nothing for this. After all, it originates deep in the soul and is not subject to conscious demands for a reward.
Once researchers in the field of emotional behavior took a picture of a group of people and conducted an experiment using their already aged photographs. They were asked a question about activities and goals in life. However, one part of the group showed their real photos, and the other those in which they were aged for several decades. Surprisingly, it was the second group that began to focus on long-term goals.
After all, they saw the sad faces of the elderly and began to worry about retirement, housing and their health. This allowed them to make wiser decisions instead of fleeting and childish plans for the future.
When we get what we want on our own, we are usually proud of our achievements. Otherwise, your negative reaction to your own success indicates that you have some kind of psychological trauma. It is they that prevent you from achieving goals and enjoying victories in a natural way. The feeling of pride in oneself and one’s work allows one to take on more complex tasks and worry less about mistakes and failures.
These qualities are good even when you do not set global goals. They strengthen self-esteem and allow you to worry less about trifles. It’s easier for you to get closer to people and improve the quality and quantity of useful social connections. Moreover, in the race for success, you sometimes forget that there are people around. And these character traits allow you to work for the benefit of others, including yourself in the future.
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